A Short Guide to the Way Women Communicate
Aaahh women! To some men they are a foreign species. As a female myself, I agree that, yes, women can be very complex, but isn't that what makes us so brilliantly unique! Okay, I'll stop now.
The fact of the matter is, both women and men are complex in their own way. Sometimes, however, men need a little help understanding women (wife, girlfriend and even mother). This article is dedicated to the men; here is your guide to female communication. Warning: it is true that not all women are the same, but these guidelines should be applicable to most of the female species.
1. Ask about Her Day
We will start with a very simple but powerful tip: ask about her day. I know, you had a rough day too and all you want to do is watch some TV or play Xbox. You deserve to relax, but before you do ask her how her day was. Just take a few minutes to chat about it, I promise she will really appreciate the fact that you are concerned about how she is and how her day went. It will also give you the opportunity to have a conversation and allow you to chat about your day too.
2. Be an Active Listener
Women love to talk, right? Actively listen to what she is saying. Remember, she is telling you things for a reason. Take the time to understand what she is saying while also paying attention to her body language and gestures. Most of the time women want feedback, so give her your thoughts when she has finished talking. While you need to listen, engaging is also important, ask her questions or her opinions about the topic. Yes, this does require patience, but it will be worth it because woman appreciate men who can listen attentively and react meaningfully.
3. Know What to Say and How
If you can't offer a solution to her problem (this can often be the case), then all you need to do is listen and most importantly show your understanding. Women want someone to understand what they are feeling. If she has a bad day at work, she will want to vent. Since there is nothing you can do to fix her terrible day, show your understanding and sympathise with her. As you can see, you will need to tackle the situation differently depending on the details. One thing is for sure though, if you don't listen to her she will either become resentful or she will complain about it to you - and you don't want to hear a women complain now, do you?
4. Woman are Not Direct
It is said that women are not always direct. Obviously, you should take this claim with a pinch of salt. I say this because you get some women who are very direct and speak their minds without beating around the bush. Women do not like to be rushed. Fact. This means that sometimes all our thoughts don't come rushing in at once, we need to think about what we want to say. Men on the other hand are straightforward because they want to get to the point and fast! Personally, I like to get to the point rather quickly, but sometimes I forget crucial points I didn't mention earlier. So allow women to get to the point and don't rush them, it will just upset them even more.
5. Talk about Your Feelings
When women what to chat with you, it's a good thing. Women like to get deep with their conversations at times. We want to know how you are feeling, what you are thinking and your inner emotions. Men can sometimes struggle to open up emotionally, but just know that women admire this and don't see it as a sign of weakness.
6. Do Some Chores
I am not saying you need to clean the whole house every day, but one thing I know for sure is this: women are very impressed by a man who cleans up a bit and does a few chores. You don't have to go to the extreme and spring clean, but helping out with dinner or washing the dishes can go a long way. Little things can make woman happy, such as picking up your socks or putting your clothes in the laundry bag. Remember, cleanliness also extends to your personal hygiene.
So there you have it, as you can see most of these guidelines revolve around engaging in conversation and listening. If you can do just that, you should be just fine. For further reading on gender issues, browse these great books.
